What Men Say

What men say is not necessarily what women hear.  Now if any of you who read are male, I will attempt to scratch the surface and for you women I can hear you saying, 'you know she's right'.  A man's intention may be entirely good but what he says doesn't always come across as what he means.  For instance, (ya'll should have seen that coming) yesterday afternoon my phone rang at 6:00 p.m.  It was a male friend.  Actually, this was a gentleman that I dated some and while it didn't work out we have remained friends. (Even though at times I have to remind him that friends is all we are ever going to be.)  He asked how I was, was I having a good weekend, and what was I doing.  I explained that I was at the beach and we were just leaving the beach and going to get something to eat.  He replied, oh, so I guess you can't go out to eat.  My reply was nope I am not available.  Now while I am sure that his intentions were good, this is not the first time that this has happened.  Let me 'splain something Lucy, unless we have been hanging out and decide to go get a bite to eat before we quit hanging out, if you wait until 6:00 p.m. to ask me out to eat, guess what, I am gonna be busy.  While he asked did I want to go out to eat what I heard was, 'here it is at 6:00 on a Sat. night and I don't have anything to do, I will call Connie because she probably don't have anything to do either.'  Another example:  The last gentleman that I dated asked me on the Sun. morning after my 84 hour week that I wrote about when talking about my crash day what I was going to do after church.  I patiently explained that I was going to church, going  home and sleeping I hoped until Monday morning.  After church he asked me if I was still going to go home and go to sleep.  Well at this point you should have been able to look at me and know the answer to that question.  My reply was a not so patient "yes".  He asked me if I would call him later if I woke up in the afternoon.  At that point the reply was pretty much a grunt.  I did wake up around 6 and I did call because I am polite like that.  He then asked if I had slept and I answered with yes I had.  He then asked what I was going to do next.  My answer was to get up, put my pajamas on and go back to bed.  He then replied with, 'oh, I thought maybe you could come up here and I would take you to get something to eat because I miss you.'  With a very curt, "I really don't give a @^$& about eating right now I just want to sleep and I will talk to you in a day or two because I am going to be very busy tomorrow" I hung up.  Now while he may have been concerned with my need to eat, what I heard was that he really didn't give two cents how tired I was, he was more concerned with the fact that he felt neglected.  I could give you many more examples but just remember whichever sex you are that what men say is not necessarily what women hear.  To be continued I am sure.